Learn How To Say You Are Unemployed

Learn How To Say You Are Unemployed I have a friend who is in a job search.   My friend is mad.   Hes hurt, wounded, depressed, sad, and feels incompetent. But really, hes MAD. Hes mad at the people responsible for him being in this job search.   (You might not be mad, but if you are overly hurt, wounded, depressed, sad, etc. and it shows, this post is for you) Okay, I get it.   Im mad too, and its been almost FOUR YEARS!   The problem with him, though, is that everyone knows hes mad. And people feel bad for him, and some get mad with him, and no one blames him for feeling MAD. But no one is ready to really help him.   No one is ready to spend their relationship capital on him for one simple reason: they are not willing to risk their relationship capital when it might backfire. Since he is so mad, the introduction might backfire.   You see, when I spent time to nurture a relationship, I dont want it jeopardized by someone who is MAD someone who I highly recommend that you chat with. I would not give an intro to someone who will ruin my relationship capital.   This person needs to figure out how to talk about what has happened with him   Here are some key thoughts: Be concise. What happened to you has happened to well, almost anyone who has been working for a few years.   I dont want to hear every detail just sum it up and let me know that you are in transition. Dont be negative. As you tell your side of the story you might make yourself look like a risk. Was there a reason you were let go?   Was it performance-related? Where you a legal liability?   And, if you are talking this way about your old boss, how are you going to talk about ME?   You should be able to figure out a way to explain why you are in transition that does not make you look bad, nor does it make you look like a whiny gossip, nor does it make you look like you are anxious to spread the bad word about your past employer (which I might one day become). Make an impression about YOU. You have a few seconds to make an impression and share a message why would you take precious time to talk about something that really doesnt matter, or help you in any way? I know that it sucks, and Im not suggesting you have to be a Pollyanna, but beware of how you communicate your why, let you turn off your network contacts. Learn How To Say You Are Unemployed I have a friend who is in a job search.   My friend is mad.   Hes hurt, wounded, depressed, sad, and feels incompetent. But really, hes MAD. Hes mad at the people responsible for him being in this job search.   (You might not be mad, but if you are overly hurt, wounded, depressed, sad, etc. and it shows, this post is for you) Okay, I get it.   Im mad too, and its been almost FOUR YEARS!   The problem with him, though, is that everyone knows hes mad. And people feel bad for him, and some get mad with him, and no one blames him for feeling MAD. But no one is ready to really help him.   No one is ready to spend their relationship capital on him for one simple reason: they are not willing to risk their relationship capital when it might backfire. Since he is so mad, the introduction might backfire.   You see, when I spent time to nurture a relationship, I dont want it jeopardized by someone who is MAD someone who I highly recommend that you chat with. I would not give an intro to someone who will ruin my relationship capital.   This person needs to figure out how to talk about what has happened with him   Here are some key thoughts: Be concise. What happened to you has happened to well, almost anyone who has been working for a few years.   I dont want to hear every detail just sum it up and let me know that you are in transition. Dont be negative. As you tell your side of the story you might make yourself look like a risk. Was there a reason you were let go?   Was it performance-related? Where you a legal liability?   And, if you are talking this way about your old boss, how are you going to talk about ME?   You should be able to figure out a way to explain why you are in transition that does not make you look bad, nor does it make you look like a whiny gossip, nor does it make you look like you are anxious to spread the bad word about your past employer (which I might one day become). Make an impression about YOU. You have a few seconds to make an impression and share a message why would you take precious time to talk about something that really doesnt matter, or help you in any way? I know that it sucks, and Im not suggesting you have to be a Pollyanna, but beware of how you communicate your why, let you turn off your network contacts. Learn How To Say You Are Unemployed I have a friend who is in a job search.   My friend is mad.   Hes hurt, wounded, depressed, sad, and feels incompetent. But really, hes MAD. Hes mad at the people responsible for him being in this job search.   (You might not be mad, but if you are overly hurt, wounded, depressed, sad, etc. and it shows, this post is for you) Okay, I get it.   Im mad too, and its been almost FOUR YEARS!   The problem with him, though, is that everyone knows hes mad. And people feel bad for him, and some get mad with him, and no one blames him for feeling MAD. But no one is ready to really help him.   No one is ready to spend their relationship capital on him for one simple reason: they are not willing to risk their relationship capital when it might backfire. Since he is so mad, the introduction might backfire.   You see, when I spent time to nurture a relationship, I dont want it jeopardized by someone who is MAD someone who I highly recommend that you chat with. I would not give an intro to someone who will ruin my relationship capital.   This person needs to figure out how to talk about what has happened with him   Here are some key thoughts: Be concise. What happened to you has happened to well, almost anyone who has been working for a few years.   I dont want to hear every detail just sum it up and let me know that you are in transition. Dont be negative. As you tell your side of the story you might make yourself look like a risk. Was there a reason you were let go?   Was it performance-related? Where you a legal liability?   And, if you are talking this way about your old boss, how are you going to talk about ME?   You should be able to figure out a way to explain why you are in transition that does not make you look bad, nor does it make you look like a whiny gossip, nor does it make you look like you are anxious to spread the bad word about your past employer (which I might one day become). Make an impression about YOU. You have a few seconds to make an impression and share a message why would you take precious time to talk about something that really doesnt matter, or help you in any way? I know that it sucks, and Im not suggesting you have to be a Pollyanna, but beware of how you communicate your why, let you turn off your network contacts.